About YBT

Eleni Vlachos

About You Big Talker

Below you will find press on Eleni Vlachos’ advocacy work, band, and film — if you are still reading, you will also find the inspiration for You Big Talker. Spoiler alert: Greece + Mediterranean port.

Select articles about the Talker

More about Beloved Binge

Beloved Binge Athens GA

Live at the Flicker Bar, Athens, GA – by Eric Griffith

More on Eleni’s documentary Seeing Through the Fence

Eleni screened Seeing through the Fence at over 100 universities across the USA in 2008-9, speaking to college audiences about the role of animals in our society. Here are a few of the 25+ articles that resulted:

Community Work … with community

humane hero of the year

With fellow awardees and attendees

Inspiration for You Big Talker

In 2015, I realized mantras were not complete BS. I discovered mine was (drumroll) … fun.  That’s right.

Does this sound a bit frivolous, or uncaring, in a world filled with agony and suffering?

“Fun” has been my approach to finding meaning, whether creating music, writing, reading, working to reduce suffering of factory farmed animals, or engaging community.  It is, after all, the opposite of suffering.  I want to create more fun in the world.

So what is You Big Talker?

To be honest, I struggled to find a “tagline” short enough to describe this site and, more importantly, why you would want to visit. The best two I came up with:

  • An attempt to live a worthwhile life by exploring things that matter most – cool stuff to read, see, review, and do
  • Exploration of the five essential ingredients for a happy* life in word and video

But that’s not quite enough.

I’m going to invoke the opposite for a moment. The following, if prolonged, make me want to vanish:  “Nice weather we’re having this week.”  Or, “Where did you get that shirt?”   We all make small talk to survive, and certainly small talk makes a great opening, but it’s often the default for far too long in discussions. And the truth is, you can go deep in a matter of seconds.

“Big talk” stems from a list of questions I maintain to ask when faced with the banality of small talk in situations much like these. I add to this each year, with questions from “If you could live 500 years, would you?” to “What is the most difficult thing about being alive?” and of course “What are your essential ingredients to a happy life?

Initially, people laugh … but then we proceed to have more interesting conversations. Big Talk is getting at what’s important because my time here is short and I don’t care about meteorology. (At least, not a lot.)

It all started in Greece

One day in 2006, port-side in the small island of Paros sipping on Greek coffee, staring at the harbor bobbing with small lopsided boats, I started thinking about the fundamental things I need in my life to consider it “good” or worthwhile. In other words, where should I be focusing my limited time based on what I have valued so far?

I want to emphasize this point.  I’m not trying to guess what makes me happy. I’m gauging by what I’ve enjoyed or valued to date, and what I’d be proud of from my proverbial death-bed in the future.  This does not mean I’ve accomplished them all – but based on my experience, they’re important.

Back in Paros, I came up with four necessary ingredients:

  1. Community (partner, family, friends)
  2. Activism (taking action on behalf of others with no voice: farm animals)
  3. Art (music, film, writing – something beyond the required)
  4. Stream – finding a way to fund the other three – the stream need not be connected to them though

And then … I told my Aunt Maria, while visiting her apartment one day in Athens.  She said, “Eleni, you’re young. You forgot the most important one.”

5. HEALTH (without it, it’s really hard to manage the other four)

{slapforehead}

And now I observe that these spell CASH.  Or, well, CAASH.  I’m sure that’s a good sign. At least for ingredient #4.

How about you?  What are your essential ingredients to a worthwhile life? Or put another way, if your death bed was looming (as they are ought to do), what would you want to spend your time doing?  Comment below.

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*Happy (YBT)= “least miserable” (JH); lived as if life ending next month; lived to fullest potential; infused with meaning; acting beyond one’s own needs; 80% time spent on activities/projects one loves.

PS: The questions originated with a “Game” my friend and I devised back in Seattle, where we came up with questions you would not want to ask your mother, certainly, or perhaps anyone. But we did (ask). It was great fun.

 

The Talker behind You Big Talker

The last pack

The last pack (photo by Ashley Meltzer)

 

This is where I talk in 3rd person

Professionally, Eleni has been a human resources manager, legal advocate for people with disabling conditions, technical writer, temp, community relations contractor, project manager, engagement manager during the first three years of a health care start-up, and even a Kindergarten tutor.

In roughly 2008 she decided that she wanted to “retire” from full-time traditional work by the age of 42. She’s worked at the Seattle Community College District, Duke, IPIHD, and even an armored car company in the early days, riding her Honda Shadow 500 to and from the University of Washington where she earned her Bachelor of Arts degree in English (with a writing emphasis).

Yawn.

Fun-ly, Eleni grew up in a classical family (her mother still plays violin in the Philharmonia Northwest) but began drumming in 1992-ish and has played with her duo Beloved Binge since 2002.  She has made two documentaries: Seeing Through the Fence (more below) and Backpack Drumset. She also creates and posts videos on Porch Life Productions, Beloved Binge, and our of course (coming soon) You Big Talker.  She is currently working on a play “Comments,” and booking their band’s first European tour.

Actively, Eleni has advocated on behalf of animals bred and raised for 98% of our “meat” food initially through N.A.R.N. (while in Seattle) and for several years with the Adopt-a-College program of Vegan Outreach, where she has handed over 32,000 students information to help guide their meal choices and ultimately reduce suffering.

Locally, she co-organizes Triangle Meatless Mondays and the Bull City Vegan Chef Challenge (more below).

Really, Eleni’s earliest professional experience and activism know-how was developed as a young lass working at her father’s many restaurants in Seattle. He taught her how to treat people well (“Fast, Friendly, and Funny!”), how to conquer shyness and engage in community outreach, and how to argue with aid of food projectiles in traditional Greek fashion.  She misses her Dad a lot and life has less joy with him not in it.

Thanks for reading this far, and leaving your own “ingredients” list below!


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